Hour 9 of the Write for Money and Power 12-Hour Book Launch Livestream was one of those conversations that slows you down in the best way — the kind that makes you rethink what growth actually feels like in your body, not just on paper.
I was joined by Roxanne ROXY Saffaie, better known as Roxy. Roxanne “Roxy” Saffaie is a former celebrity makeup artist and current writer, podcaster, and speaker who helps creatives dig deeper into their next levels of growth. She brings a rare mix of lived experience, emotional intelligence, and grounded wisdom — the kind that doesn’t rush to answers but asks better questions. You can find her on Substack here.
This hour was about self-trust, nervous system regulation, and what it actually means to evolve creatively without abandoning yourself in the process.
Here are a few ideas from Hour 9 worth sitting with:
Self-Trust Is a Practice, Not a Personality Trait
One of the strongest threads in the conversation was Roxy’s reminder that self-trust isn’t something you either have or don’t have. It’s something you build through repetition.
Every time you listen to your intuition.
Every time you follow through on a promise to yourself.
Every time you survive something hard and realize you’re still standing.
Over time, those moments stack. And eventually, you stop outsourcing your sense of safety to external validation.
Your Body Knows Before Your Brain Does
Roxy talked about how the body often gives us information long before the mind catches up. Expansion versus contraction. Ease versus tightness. Curiosity versus dread.
Learning to notice those signals doesn’t mean fear disappears — it means you stop mistaking fear for danger. That distinction changes how decisions feel. You become less reactive and more grounded, even when you’re doing something new or uncomfortable.
Pivoting Isn’t Starting Over
Roxy shared openly about her transition from celebrity makeup artistry into writing, podcasting, and speaking. What stood out was how little she framed it as a reinvention.
It sounded more like a continuation.
The confidence, resilience, and self-direction she built as a freelancer didn’t disappear — they traveled with her. That’s a powerful reframe for anyone who worries that changing lanes means erasing their past. Nothing is wasted when you’re paying attention.
Safety Comes From Inside
A big emotional beat of the hour centered on how many creatives are taught to look for safety in titles, jobs, or approval. Roxy gently challenged that idea.
True safety comes from knowing you can handle uncertainty. That you can feel uncomfortable and still move forward. That you can disappoint someone and survive it. When that internal safety is present, the external world feels far less threatening — and you stop waiting for guarantees that were never real to begin with.
Growth Doesn’t Require Self-Abandonment
One of the quiet takeaways of Hour 9 was permission.
Permission to rest, to move slower, to change your mind.
Roxy reminded us that growth doesn’t have to come at the cost of your nervous system. You’re allowed to expand and feel supported. Those two things don’t cancel each other out.
If this conversation resonated — especially if you’re navigating a transition, a pivot, or a deeper relationship with your own intuition — Roxy’s work is well worth spending time with:
And if Hour 9 reflected questions you’re asking about power, safety, and building a creative life that actually supports you, that throughline runs through every chapter of my book:
The ebook is $0.99 to give all writers access to it at a low cost.
Thank you Duncan The Sage, Elizabeth Norvell, Kelda, Josephine Nesbit, and many others for tuning into my live video with Roxanne ROXY Saffaie!
-Amy
